The How of Happiness.
Last week, the hubby told me about an interesting book that he was reading and I had checked it out.
It’s called The How of Happiness, A New Approach to Getting the Life You Want.
It was a very interesting and thought provoking read for me. And I’m going to share a few pointers that I had taken away with me from this book.
The author says that What Determines Happiness? is split into 3 parts – 50% is Set Point, 40% by Intentional Activity and 10% by Circumstances.
In short, what that means is that whether you are happy or not depends on (1) your genetic make up, (2) the activities you engage in and (3) the situation you are in and things that happen to you.
I was very amused that 50% of whether we are happy or not depends on our genetic make up. Shucks! That means that if you were not born a happy baby, and don’t have cheery genes, you’re pretty much screwed. I’m going to be as smiley and happy as I can be if I get pregnant so that my baby can have happy genes from Day 1!
The author also listed the thinking and behavioural patterns of the happiest people in their studies. And at the top of the list was this –
[Happy people] devote a great amount of time to their family and friends, nurturing and enjoying those relationships.
Is this a hint to unhappy people? Perhaps people are not happy because they don’t spend much time with their family and friends?
Continuing in the next page, I picked another two of my favourite items -
[Happy people] savor life’s pleasures and try to live in the present moment.
Aaah, I strongly believe in this. I always say, “Life is short. Live it.”
And, the happiest people do have their share of stresses, crises, and even tragedies.
How true.. even in my happiest times, there were moments of pain and struggles. I just don’t blog about those stuff, that’s all. This place is not sadstoryofbing.com!
I love reading this book. It makes me think about what I want and the attitude I want to wear in my life.
I’m going to share more stuff from this book later!
[20 April 2010 – The How of Happiness Part 2 is here.]
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